Feeling Pressure to Do Everything? READ THIS!
Feeling Pressure to Do Everything? READ THIS!
Dear Sisterfriend,
Expectations can be overwhelming! Last week I shared about the expectations that others can have for us as a Pastors’ Wives. We often carry not only the expectations of others—but also the heavy ones we place on ourselves.
We think we should be more involved. We should lead something. We should be at every event. We should be stronger, more spiritual, more available... and the list goes on and on.
But here’s a gentle truth: God never asked you to do it all. He invites you to simply walk with Him, and to serve from a place of rest, not pressure.
If you’ve been wrestling with your own expectations, feeling like you’re not measuring up or constantly questioning whether you're doing enough, here are three ways to reset those expectations and embrace peace in your calling.
ClarifyYour Calling 🙌
It’s easy to assume that because you're a pastor’s wife, you automatically must fulfill certain roles. But the truth is, your calling is not based on a title—it’s based on your relationship with Jesus and the gifts He’s given you.
✅ Practical Step: Take time this week to pray and journal. Ask God: “What have You called ME to in this season? Don’t just reflect on what others expect—get clarity on what He wants. This is your anchor when pressure tries to creep in.Release the “Superwoman” Standard 🦸♀️
You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to have it all together. You don’t have to be strong 100% of the time. You don’t have to be and do it all. Holding yourself to impossible standards leads to burnout, not blessing.✅ Practical Step: Replace “I should” with “What’s realistic and healthy right now?” Instead of striving to be everything, ask: What is God asking me to do right now? What gives me life? What allows me to love my family well? Then lean into those things.
Embrace Seasons, Not Sameness 🤗
You won’t always be able to serve or lead in the same way in every season, and that’s okay. Ministry, motherhood, marriage, and even your own emotional and spiritual capacity will shift over time. What worked for you last year may not be right for this year. That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It may mean that God is moving you into a new season.✅ Practical Step: Identify the season you’re in right now. Is it a season of rest? Growth? Healing? Supporting from the background? Embrace it fully. Don’t force yourself to function like you’re in a different one. Trust that God leads you through each season with purpose.
Final Encouragement ❣️
Friend, you don’t need to do it all, be it all, or carry it all. You are allowed to say “this is enough for now.”
Let your expectations of yourself be rooted in grace, not pressure. God isn’t disappointed in you. He delights in you—just as you are.
You are doing a beautiful job, even if it doesn’t always feel like it sometimes.
Reply and let me know—What’s one expectation you’re ready to surrender this week? I’d love to cheer you on! 🎉
Cheering you on always,
P.S. Have we connected in my Called 2 Ministry private Facebook group? If not, join my community of like-minded women here.
